Day 7 – Get negative before you get positive
I remember when I was first introduced to all of this “positive thinking”. The most vivid experience was that it was so damn hard! I remember constantly bursting into tears and thinking, “I can’t do this!” The whole thing left me too exhausted. This was the opposite of what I was signed up for. What I was doing all wrong was that whenever a negative thought came, I tried to ignore it. It talked to me and I pretended I didn’t hear it, naïvely answering, “Oh, I’m so positive! I so see the bright side, now!” I pushed all negativity under the carpet, but it was still there and oh, I knew it well! The idea here is to let all of your negativity come to the surface, acknowledge it, accept it, honour it and let it go. Kind of like the saying, “It gets worse before it gets better.” Then you’re clear and ready for all of the positivity.
Tapping (or EFT)
I’ll talk about this in a future video, but in short, EFT means Emotional Freedom Technique and is essentially an acupuncture technique practiced with our own hands instead of needles. It works by tapping with our fingers on certain meridian points on our body, (like on the inside of the eyebrow, on the outer corner of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, on the chin, on the collar bones) while stating out loud all of the negativity from our mind. In that way, we stimulate the nervous system and tell our amygdala (the place where the stress begins from) to calm down. When the stress is reduced and the negativity is eliminated, we keep tapping, thereby switching negativity with positive, happy, relaxing and/or exciting affirmations.
Stream of consciousness
This is basically a word vomit on paper. Write with a pen and paper rather than digitally, as this way you’ll be expressing not only the thoughts, but you also bring out the elegy those thoughts carry and let it go. The idea here is to empty your mind onto the paper, so you really need to write without editing yourself. You can be selfish, mean, stupid, sensitive, naive, vulnerable. You can make grammar and spelling mistakes, you can repeat yourself or not use the perfect words, as long as you express what you feel at the moment. You don’t have to write about everything that disappoints you in life, at once, choose one specific subject at a time, one that makes you feel particularly negative in this moment. This is the way to create white mental space, Plus, writing is another way to make the subconscious conscious, to gain clarity on your limiting beliefs and negative patterns, which we can clear if they don’t serve you. You can do this exercise as often as you want. On a when-needed basis, one time a month, a week or even daily as Julia Cameron suggests, calling it Morning Pages.
Give yourself permission to feel
A great exercise I read in Miracles Now by Gabrielle Bernstein is: #92 Give yourself permission to feel. It instructs exactly that: to feel your feelings. Feel them in your body, describe the feeling thoroughly (weight on the chest, tightness in the stomach, pressure in your head) and then take 90 seconds to breathe in and out deeply and fully experiencing the feeling. After those 90 seconds, you’ll be able to witness a shift in your body: your feeling is ready to leave and you’re free to replace it with all things positive! I have created a (free!) audio guide to feel your feelings and you can find it here.
As always, take whatever works for you and turn it around to give it your own tweak. Use a combination of the three exercises, or one a time. Try each one separately and choose your favourite, or devote a whole day on clearing the negativity of your mind. I want you to make the most out of the above ideas, by using them your way.
Now, tell me in the comments below, how did this video help you and most importantly, what are you going to do about it?
I am Evi and this is my way of working on a pretty creative self
Until next time, take care
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