How does success look to you?
Being successful is a matter of perception, really. Not everyone has the same goals and dreams, so the idea of success for some might not align with our own. This is why we need to: a) stop caring about what anyone else thinks of our practices, goals, lifestyle or dreams, as long as what we do actually is what we love and b) try our best to stay on track with our personal goals, our own values and our core desire feelings, without picking up anyone else’s ideas no matter how appealing they might be. Sure, we’re free people and we can change our minds anytime, but we want to take a moment and evaluate the new idea: “Is that what I really want? Which of my current core desire feelings would I be willing to leave aside for this?”
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
– Thomas A. Edison
Another version of the above quote that I’ve found is, “I didn’t fail 10,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 10,000 steps.” Failure as we think of it, is not actually real. A failed attempt to get what we thought we wanted or to get what we did want through an uninspiring way, is not really a failure. It’s more of a “we’ve missed our exit” reminder that we need to go back, make new choices and then move forward again in the right direction. And of course, every misstep, every pitfall, is a tiny or a big lesson for us. There’s always a way we can learn form a tough situation.
I recall the Greek songwriter, his performing name is Loudovikos ton Anogeion, whose music is so calming that people often fall asleep during his concerts. Instead of being offended, he said that he was actually flattered because he used to have sleep issues and suffer from insomnia. So, being able to put people to sleep with his music was, in his mind, a gift. In the same way, I was always more shy than my brother and mother (I’m from a strongly-loving, loudly-talking, Greek family). This was seen as a downside of my personality for too long. Today, everyone tells me instead how my voice is soothing and calming, how well I explain things and that they even play my YouTube videos when they have headache. Having suffered from chronic headaches through puberty, I find this flattering, too.
Having done the work we’ve discussed so far, it won’t be too hard to find out what you consider success for yourself. Feeling the way you want to feel, working on yourself to be who you want to be and working to have the things you want to have should be considered success. To paraphrase Gandhi, “Success is when what you think, what you want, and what you do are in harmony.”
So how success looks like for you? How does it feel, rather? What would make your life and this year successful? Write things down and don’t feel too committed. You can change your mind later.
Now, tell me in the comments below, how did this podcast help you and most importantly, what are you going to do about it?
I am Evi and this is my way of working on a pretty creative self.
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